“The primary goal of parenting, beyond keeping our children safe and loved, is to convey to them a sense that it is possible to be happy in an uncertain world, to give them hope. We do this, of course, by example more than by anything we say to them. If we can demonstrate in our own lives qualities of commitment, determination, and optimism, then we have done our job and can use our books of child-rearing advice for doorstops or fireplace fuel. What we cannot do is expect that children who are constantly criticized, bullied, and lectured will think well of themselves and their futures.”—
WHAT MAKES YOU FEEL BETTER WHEN YOU ARE IN A BAD MOOD?
It depends what puts me in a bad mood. Personally, I like to listen to music, drive to the beach in the middle of the night and open my sun-roof to scream it out, talk it out with my best friend, or to blog about it.
What I recommend is listening to David Choi or talking it out because that almost ALWAYS help. :)
Have you ever looked in the mirror and thought something is not right? How about putting on a fresh pair of undies and walking out the door realizing these undies are the wrong color and they just don’t go with today’s outfit? What about someone staring the the mirror for a prolonged amount of time and examining every inch of his or her body, thinking there is something that much be improved such as nose needs to be larger, eyebrows must be lifted, boobs aren’t big enough, skin tone is not even.
What is BDD :
People who suffer from BDD are never satisfied with their looks. They spend hours checking themselves in front of mirrors, monitor the foods that goes in their mouth, and obsess over the way they present themselves in front of others.
They see themselves differently in the mirror than the way everybody else sees them. Those who suffer from BDD don’t think they have a serious condition. They feel that it is very minor, yet they’re always looking for something to improve.
Every time they alter a part of their body, they’re not completely satisfied because after every procedure done, they’ll look for something else to change. There’s a new baseline drawn for them.
How to cure BDD :
Of course there a drugs. It seems like drugs are becoming the immediate “go-to” solution for just about any problem. (Headache, muscle pain, minor cuts and burns, erectile dysfunction, insomnia - just to name a few problems solved by drugs.)
Here is something “natural.”
Cognitive-Behavior Therapy (CBT) helps because CBT is problem focused. The therapist is present and address the symptoms the patient experiences and what changes should be made to adjust to a healthy lifestyle. The therapist is also there to teach the patient thought management skills and improve their functions.
Selective Serotonin Reuptake Inhibitors (SSRIs) SSRIs are typically used to treat those who suffer from depression, and those who have personality or anxiety disorder. This drug works for those who have BDD because low level of serotonin = depression and high level of serotonin = mania. If one reaches the state of mania, that person will reach the state of euphoria and delusion. Downside SSRIs, just like almost any drug haves a high rate of dependency and addiction. When one becomes addicted and depends on SSRIs, his or her body no longer makes the natural serotonin that it used to make because the drug overpowers the Central Nervous System (CNS) and the drugs send a message to the CNS saying, “I’m here in place of you. You can rest.” And when the CNS become accustomed to this cycle, it “lounges on the sofa” and doesn’t know how to make serotonin anymore. So!, from this point on, the patient goes into Rehab and the Withdrawal phase.